To Kiss and Be Kissed: Get Your Dating Kisses Right!

Well it's that part in the date when you have to decide, do you kiss  or not? Question is, do you want to? And if you did, what kind of kiss? And once you know, should you make the first move, or wait?

The first part is easy, it's a yes or no. Either you feel comfortable enough with your date to allow some intimacy, or you don't. If you do then kissing is a natural progression. If you don't, then kissing can only lead to other places you really don't want to go either, so skip the lip locking and call it a night!

Having decided that a kiss is definitely in your picture for a perfect end to the evening, what kind of kiss do you have in mind? That kinda requires you to think ahead a bit. If you're wanting to say "Thank you and Goodnight", then a chaste peck on the cheek, or even brush lips against lips is enough, but if you're thinking "Thank you, and would you like to stay the night?" then a little more power and lip-on-lip movement is definitely called for. If you're in the "Hope you're still hungry because I'm the desert!" category" then it's French kiss time or bust! Don't forget it's not just lips and tongues involved in a kiss  remember you've got arms, either hug your date closer to you with them around their neck, or around their waist, or even pull them towards you by having your hands on their butt  now how's that for really getting the point across!

Finally do you kiss, or do you wait? Old school etiquette says the guy makes the first move, but we're living in modern times where girls are taking the initiative more readily. Are you old fashioned, or do you consider yourself marching with the times? Another way of looking at it is, do you want to kiss  or be kissed? If you want to be kissed, but not sure if your date's going to make the first move, then you need to use your body language to show that you're waiting for his mouth to claim yours! Flirt with your date, lots of eye contact, lots of physical touching/caressing etc. Let them know that you're not only receptive to the idea of a kiss, but you're waiting for it! If it doesn't come, but you feel that they're unsure of what to do, then this time you're going to have to take the initiative and gently kiss them on the lips  and don't move away, linger a second or so and see if you get a response. If they're up for the kiss, then you won't wait long. If you're left waiting, then they're either not interested at all, or they're unsure of being able to settle for just a kiss and so abstaining altogether!

The one thing that you must be sure of when kissing in a date situation, especially a first date, is that kisses often are the start of something else, and if you let them get too fired up, you may end up in a situation you didn't plan on!

Gabriel L is a life coach who specializes in helping singles and couples to discover their problems and how to improve their love life. He is also an expert in internet dating strategies and methods. You can find his works at www.OnlineDatingCode.com